My last month’s goal – going off the grid failed miserably. After deleting all the social media application from my phone and being firm about not going back on it for at least after a months time, I was back on it in a week (will write more about it soon). So after the failed attempt, I decided to pursue a new mission, a new goal which will help me get back to my slim figure. It is somewhat new as I never had to consciously focus on staying fit as I was blessed naturally. I never had to diet, not once did I ever work out for I had a naturally slim demeanour for which I thanked my genes as I thought that was the reason behind my body type. I have survived binge eating because it never added an inch of fat on my body. I had the liberty to eat what I wanted when I wanted and how much ever I wanted without feeling guilty about it. A minute on the lip was never on the hip for me. I was one of the ‘Can eat as much as she wants but will never put on even an ounce of weight’ girl. I have been fit as a fiddle; never been diagnosed with any major or minor medical condition despite my cheese and street food addiction. Was I just plain lucky or was there another reason behind it? If I was lucky did I run out luck in the last few month and suddenly started putting on? Or is it the age factor as I am in my late twenties? Or Is it the curse of the many girls who envied my body finally made it to me? It wasn’t any of these things but it was a technique that I followed for years without being aware of it. With every morsel of food that went in my mouth, the thought that accompanied it was “I will always be slim no matter what I eat.” It was an automatic thought process that I had developed over time. I was very comfortable in my own skin and proud of my appearances, no amount of body-shaming or remarks had ever made me feel less stunning about myself. Body-shaming is sadly a part of Indian culture where you are on a gamut of fat or skinny and no one is spared from it, as you can never be the right size for there is always a scoop of improvement. The best part about the body-shamming people who righteously added me in the ‘too thin to get married category’ was that ironically they were the same people dreaming to fit into the size 0 jeans but couldn’t because of their big fat negative attitude toward their own body. I was too strong mentally to let people struggling with low self-esteem themselves pull me down to their level and make me feel sad for the way I naturally looked. (Notice how all the sentences are in the past tense).
It wasn’t till recently that I realised that what was keeping me in shape wasn’t just my good genes but the practice of positive automatic thoughts/ positive self-talk. Positive self-talk is not thinking fat thoughts which are a common mistake people make. What are fat thoughts? Fat thoughts are “This food will make me fat, it’s too oily.” “ I feel guilty for eating this piece of cake, I am cheating on my diet.” “ I am fat I will always stay fat no matter what I do.” “This burger will make me fat, too many calories.” Take a minute before you eat that next cheese burger or the chocolate cake next time to focus on thoughts. What are your thoughts? Are they fat thoughts? Or Are they slim thoughts? Do you feel guilty after eating food or do you feel happy about it? These thoughts can determine the way your body turns out to be.
As a practising psychologist, I truly believe that if you learn to discipline your thought even in your eating habits you won’t need out side help no diet, no workout just the power of your mind is enough to get you the figure you want without giving up on your favourite food. I am a big walking evidenced of that. But if you don’t, believe me, there are many studies and research supporting this statement.* “I will always stay slim no matter what I eat” is the success Mantra/the belief system that gave me the slim body. To prove this theory think of a person you know who hardly eats anything but is on the heavy side. She/he is doing everything right but aren’t able to lose weight. Unless they have a health condition the 100s of promising diets, new weight loss pills and exercises should work but they don’t. Why? The only reason behind it is the belief in one’s ability to become fit. Do you believe you can be fit?
So why am I trying to eat right and stay fit suddenly? Why this goal all of a sudden? 3 months ago I started noticing changes in my body extra mass on these bones, layers of fat on my stomach. My cute little flat tummy is slowly bulging out, my thighs that have been parallel and apart from each other are now kissing each other every time I walk. These are changes that only I can feel and notice as it is going on inside my body. No outsider can say that I look fat but the problem is I feel fat. I FEEL FAT this is the danger zone that I have entered in. Automatic positive thoughts have now changed into negative ones. I am thinking fat thoughts! My recent observation is that as soon I eat something then rub my belly and say“ I am going to become fat.” The genie just like in the Aladdin’s story says-Your wish is my command.
Like I said it is the power of your mind it can make you or it can break you. So how did the positive thoughts that kept me going for over 2 decades turn negative? How did I land up feeling and thinking fat thoughts? The ‘body-shamer’ that I spoke about always had this concerned question posed to me every time I met them “When will you put on?” I rubbed my belly and answered “After marriage” and you know what the genie said-Your wish is my command. To every root, fibre and muscle in my body and mind, I believed it. Since I believed in this answer so much it started turning into reality. After 2 years of being married, I am starting to gradually gain weight. I have never been over 42 kg before marriage no matter what I ate or did and now I am nearly 50 kg. Not that this weight changes my category for now but it’s happening. Many people told me it is the fresh food or the weather of London or all the sex after marriage the reason behind it but I know it’s the power of my thoughts that got converted into reality.
I am determined now to change those negative thoughts to positive ones. “I will be slim no matter what I eat.” I am using an Indian diet application to help me reach this goal, as I need to believe that it will work. I successfully managed to do the physical activities which have to give my lazy muscles a wake-up call causing pain as they haven’t been disturbed in a long time. Diet –wise tried green tea and cinnamon water for the first time and it wasn’t the best taste but will develop it with time. Difficult to follow the strict diet as it involved cooking and taking lunch boxes to work but persistence and patience are the keys to success. I will be soon back to eating cheese daily and still be as slim as I was till then the salad and low carbs will have to support me in changing this thought process.
Will be updating soon on how I am successful or unsuccessful in achieving this goal.
Do let me know about your endeavour to staying fit and healthy and if you have the same experience as I have. Think Thin thoughts & stay fit.
*( Check out the YouTube video to know more about the power of self-talk of the well know author and writer-Dr. Shad Helmstetter – “The Story of Self-Talk”)